A woman that was in my class in High School and now a "Facebook Friend" that I had recently been having a laugh with of late, posted a status last night saying "I'm stewing..". So, I replied to it with "Oooh, beef & dumplings?!". Then someone else asked her what was up, and she said something about being pissed off or something. So I then just added "Or is it Chicken, Irish, or Ratatouille?!" and didn't think anything else of it. Then this morning, I wake to find that she has deleted me off of Facebook and sent me this following mail:
6 hours ago
Sarah Shaw- Hi do u really think it's fair to publicly take the piss out of my problems? I'm sure you wouldn't appreciate someone doing the same to you!
It makes it worse that my problem started very much like yours 15 yrs ago and I'm still getting the shit just because my daughter isn't a baby it doesn't make it hurt any less you should think about how you would feel before trampling all over someone elses feelings
So I replied with:
53 minutes agoMark McGarry- Hello. No-one was 'publicly taking the piss out of your problems'. "it doesn't make it hurt any less you should think about how you would feel before trampling all over someone elses feelings" Are you serious? You put that you were "stewing" (which means "to undergo cooking by simmering or slow boiling"). So I asumed you were a little pissed off with something, so I tried to keep things light-hearted and defuse the situation a little with some humour and simply asked what kind of stew you were making "chicken, beef, etc".... How you can say that you are hurt by this and that I have trampled all over your feelings and have publicly taken the piss out of your feelings is a massive over-reaction on your part. I have no idea why you have taken such a little, light-hearted, non personal comment and turned it into something much bigger? As you said, you were stewing, perhaps you just needed someone to take it all out on (especially with me being a man!). I have no idea. But in future, if you don't want people to pass comment on your personal life, then I suggest that you don't keep putting it all over Facebook. A place where anyone can pass comment. I see you have also deleted me for asking "what kind of stew?". As I said, ridiculous and a total over-reaction. But once again, I wish you good luck with your future and I hope you soon get all your problems sorted. As it seems to be ruining your life at the moment and you are bringing other people down in the process. Regards, Mark.
Heck, this is already a longass blog, so I may as well paste the rest of the convo!
- Sarah Shaw:
- You were taking the piss any idiot could see I wasn't on about cooking you even continued after I said I was pissed off I aren't taking my problems out on anyone
- I can make light of a lot of things and laugh at myself but I would never try to make light of your situation with your son so why do it with me? I was letting off steam on my status as do a lot of people some even write a whole blog about their problems think I'm entitled to two words don't you
38 minutes agoMark McGarry- How could I be taking the piss out of your problems when I had no idea about them or what was going on?! I simply made a couple of little jokes re:stewing & cooking. Maybe in a few days time when things have calmed down a bit, you might see just how badly you have over-reacted to it. You say you have so much shit going on in your life at the moment (as you know, so do I). So I was just trying to keep things light-hearted and make a little joke. Not at your problems, as I am not aware of them. Just in general. I was trying to make you smile/laugh a little. Trying to cheer you up. As a friend. It obviously didn't work...
36 minutes agoSarah Shaw- But when someone is obviously annoyed about something is this really the right time to make a joke? I think not let's just say on one of ur status's about your son I cracked a joke would u think it was funny I doubt it
33 minutes agoMark McGarry- Yes, you are entitled to two words of course.. Am I not allowed a couple of words myself to ask "chicken or beef"? It was a joke. lighten-up and stop being such a dramaqueen. And how you can compare a me making a slight joke on your status saying that you are stewing to making a comment on a status about my son is completely different and very personal. Where my comment wasn't...
32 minutes agoSarah Shaw- I really do hope you don't have to fight for your child for 15 yrs but if you do you might just understand that this isn't something I find funny in the least neither is it something I have any control over and every now and again I have a few days maybe weeks where I let off steam especially times like now when I've got other things to deal with
18 minutes agoSarah Shaw- It's only different because it's about u so me having problems is me being a drama queen? U really are a self centred idiot i really can't be bothered with this shit and I certainly don't need it!!
And she blocked me after that....
So, anyhow. All silly handbags and un-necessary drama if you ask me. The only reason I am showing the conversation, is because this kind of thing is happening to me. A lot... I seem to have an uncanny nack for "pissing people off". I want to know where you guys think that I am going wrong. Set me straight. As I am sick of this kind of thing happening over and over again. I don't think I am a bad person in the slightest, so it's starting to worry me. Normally I wouldn't show a private conversation that I have with someone. But there's nothing really personal here. And she's blocked and deleted me now anyways. Now, I know that Sarah & I have a lot of mutual friends on Facebook (that we both went to school with), so I'm sure I will probably get a lot of abuse from people defending her. Or at least pointing her in the direction of this blog. That is fine. I'm not bad-mouthing her. The opposite actually. I am just trying to find out where I am going wrong. So any comments on here would be greatly appreciated!
Recently I lost my laptop for a few days due to a virus that wiped everything (including windows), so had some spare time and watched all four seasons of True Blood. I am really loving the show and can't wait to next summer for season 5. I have to say 'Jessica' the vampire from the show is my current crush (played by Deborah Ann Woll). I'm sure you are all extremely happy that I told you that, I know, and you're very welcome! She can bite me and suck me dry anytime she wants to! Does anybody else watch the show?! Who is your favourite character? What do you think of the various seasons?!
Anyways, Happy Halloween folks! I hope you all have a great time! Please feel free to leave any comments and I will return with some more rantings soon enough!
You poor bastards.....
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